Let's face it , dating is the most complicated rat maze ever. Leaves us wondering what is around the corner and whether we will end up with a processed piece of government cheese or a delicate piece of french Brie cheese or some delicious Gouda cheese.
Obviously, the better choice is a perfectly aged slice of gouda cheese, maybe some crackers and a glass of merlot so then, why are we settling for greasy processed cheese?!
One word can sum up the reason we are not enjoying in the gourmet cheese: Dealbreakers.
We, as daters, need a mental list of dealbreakers that separate the keepers from the others. A set of standards that are acheivable but not too lofty ( there's a very slim chance you will find a hot, rich, successful, sweet, romantic, loyal ,puppy loving, chick flick watching, shoe shopping afficionato unless he's gay). When making your mental note which you will file under " EXTREMELY IMPORTANT" do a self assessment of what matters to you most:
Are you a family-oriented person ? Do you want financial stability? Do you mind if he smokes?
Keep those standards close to your heart and don't let anything come close to making an exception. It may seem okay when you are falling head over heels with a guy that is amazing in every way except for his growing bank debt. In the end, those minor details you try to overlook will come back in a major way.
I challenge you to make a mental list and stick to it, watch how the way you select your "job applicants" changes and how the quality of the guys go up a knotch.
Keep searching for that cheese and hope its gourmet!
Obviously, the better choice is a perfectly aged slice of gouda cheese, maybe some crackers and a glass of merlot so then, why are we settling for greasy processed cheese?!
One word can sum up the reason we are not enjoying in the gourmet cheese: Dealbreakers.
We, as daters, need a mental list of dealbreakers that separate the keepers from the others. A set of standards that are acheivable but not too lofty ( there's a very slim chance you will find a hot, rich, successful, sweet, romantic, loyal ,puppy loving, chick flick watching, shoe shopping afficionato unless he's gay). When making your mental note which you will file under " EXTREMELY IMPORTANT" do a self assessment of what matters to you most:
Are you a family-oriented person ? Do you want financial stability? Do you mind if he smokes?
Keep those standards close to your heart and don't let anything come close to making an exception. It may seem okay when you are falling head over heels with a guy that is amazing in every way except for his growing bank debt. In the end, those minor details you try to overlook will come back in a major way.
I challenge you to make a mental list and stick to it, watch how the way you select your "job applicants" changes and how the quality of the guys go up a knotch.
Keep searching for that cheese and hope its gourmet!
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