" It's complicated" has to be the best relationship status option for Facebook. It can mean that maybe you are past the stage where you only see each other in groups but haven't gotten to the point where he/she is automatically your +1 at events. It could also be the ex boyfriend that you can't seem to end things with for the sake of the comfort he soothes your lonely soul. Whatever it is, " It's complicated" seems to remedy that question in the Facebook world.
So why does it not work in real life? Talking to a friend the other day brought up the question " Why can't people believe that two people of the opposite sex can be 'just friends'?"
The answer can be taken from the wise tale of When Harry met Sally starring the ever present romantic comedy star, Meg Ryan opposite funnyman Billy Crystal. The story line centers around two friends who meet and have an on again off again friendship before realizing they love each other. The predictable Hollywood story, however, is not too far from reality ( with the exception that they end up happily ever after).
Truth is that men and women can only be friends if two things are in play: A) there is NO attraction whatsoever (hard to decipher), B) The person is gay. Other than those two exceptions there is no platonic friendships between sexes because at one point, in one way or another someone will catch feelings.
In my case a short lived kindergarten crush with someone whom I thought would lead to a relationship crashed head first into the friend zone wall. Forget the fact that we talked on the phone very often and spent some time together. It was obvious that he wanted the famous title of "Friends with benefits" and that is not happening. Unless these benefits include health insurance, a company car and frequent flyer miles I'll pass. I'd rather be single with no prospects than stuck in a make believe relationship for the convenience of Mr. Benefits.
So to answer his question, the reason people can't believe that two sexes can be platonic friends is because in millions of cases we've fallen for the person who doesn't see us the same way, and as much as we try justifying it the truth still stands straight up in front of us, making sure we know that "just friends" translates to "He's just not that into you".
well, guess it's back to the cheese hunt
xox-S
So why does it not work in real life? Talking to a friend the other day brought up the question " Why can't people believe that two people of the opposite sex can be 'just friends'?"
The answer can be taken from the wise tale of When Harry met Sally starring the ever present romantic comedy star, Meg Ryan opposite funnyman Billy Crystal. The story line centers around two friends who meet and have an on again off again friendship before realizing they love each other. The predictable Hollywood story, however, is not too far from reality ( with the exception that they end up happily ever after).
Truth is that men and women can only be friends if two things are in play: A) there is NO attraction whatsoever (hard to decipher), B) The person is gay. Other than those two exceptions there is no platonic friendships between sexes because at one point, in one way or another someone will catch feelings.
In my case a short lived kindergarten crush with someone whom I thought would lead to a relationship crashed head first into the friend zone wall. Forget the fact that we talked on the phone very often and spent some time together. It was obvious that he wanted the famous title of "Friends with benefits" and that is not happening. Unless these benefits include health insurance, a company car and frequent flyer miles I'll pass. I'd rather be single with no prospects than stuck in a make believe relationship for the convenience of Mr. Benefits.
So to answer his question, the reason people can't believe that two sexes can be platonic friends is because in millions of cases we've fallen for the person who doesn't see us the same way, and as much as we try justifying it the truth still stands straight up in front of us, making sure we know that "just friends" translates to "He's just not that into you".
well, guess it's back to the cheese hunt
xox-S
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Girl!!! I believe it. You may try to convince yourself that "you are just friends" but us ladies being the emotional ones always want more then they offer, but what is it that they are offering??? Do they want to be with you as friends or is it just a front since they are on the "No Commitment Railroad" Doesn't it just tick you off when after endless phone calls, the I miss you, the you don't love me anymore (hahaha) lines we are still caught up in this little vicious circle that guys play. What B.S.!!! When will it be our turn to find a real man that is looking for real love and not this whole platonic shit!!! Back to the cheese hunt it is!!!
ReplyDeleteI agree with this freaking post. I catch myself in these situations all the time. Why can't a guy just make up their mind? Why is it so difficult to know what you want?! Geez. Why can't I be the exception?
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