In the Spirit of Thanksgiving: My top 10 thanks to the opposite sex

Now, Ti's the season to be grateful and although most of my readers are 20-something femmes, I do have a few scattered male readers who fear I will base my next post on them. In order to show them gratitude for not landing in my ranting stream, I shall recount the top 10 Thank Yous in no particular order and directed to no one in particular except those boys I know who deserve the praise.

10. Thank you for being completely honest about my hair color/outfit/boy I'm digging even when I clearly know you are wrong. Being willing to speak your mind to your female friends is a daunting task especially when they are clearly beginning to look like they resort to highlighters to color their hair.

9. Thank you for wearing delicious smelling cologne when in small spaces with females and people in general. ( There are exceptions to this) There is nothing better than to smell Jean Paul Gautier while traveling to the 2nd level of the Parking Garage.

8. Thanks for coming back with witty, funny remarks instead of cheesy and pathetic pick-up lines. That is so 1995 . I may be speaking for myself when I say this but, "U and I shouldn't be rearranged in the alphabet", they are fine where they are.

7. Thank you for wearing clothes that fit your body. Showing your toned arms is one thing, Showing your Hanes Boxers is just plain dumb. This is NOT a Kriss Kross music video and you are neither Kid nor Play. The happy median between leggings and parachute pants is a pair of well structured straight legged pants. Gap and Banana Republic are your friends, so please take note.

6. Thanks for allowing us girls to pay for ourselves and sometimes you as well. Any friendship is a partnership. You scratch our back, we scratch yours; You take us to dinner, we leave the tip.

5. Thanks for not making fun of us when we sing off key on Rock Band. Although we'd rather you laugh at us to our faces instead of making the suppressed smirk look.

4. Thank you for well-groomed facial hair and hygiene. Over plucked eyebrows are a no-no but nicely trimmed beards and teeth that don't look like you store corn kernels in your mouth is greatly appreciated and acknowledged

3. Special Thanks to the few who are good fathers. As the wise John Mayer says, "Fathers be good to your Daughters, Daughters will love like you do". Thanks for breaking the cycle of fathers not being involved in their children's lives.

2. Thanks for not taking yourselves too serious around us ladies, being too uptight is never fun. Humor is the way to a girl's heart, ask anyone.

1.Thanks for being a true representation of gentlemen.

As I said before there are a lot of guys who deserve to hear this so this goes out to you guys. We, ladies, appreciate your genuine wonderful traits and during this time of Thanksgiving offer up our compliments.

Happy Thanksgiving, don't over eat!

xoxo

-s

Don't go Changing.. to try and please me

Before you begin reading, press play. Think of it as a soundtrack..

Now we all know that one ( or more) girl who morphs into the person her loved one wants her to be when she's in a relationship. "My boyfriend doesn't want me to cut my hair, he likes it long" or " I wear more dresses because my husband prefers me in them" I understand that you should try your best to please your partner and looking pretty for them is important but, ladies. . . you should do what makes you feel happy. I'm not trying to propose that you do everything opposite of your partner's wishes and thus ruin the relationship but, why change everything about yourself in order to please someone? Shouldn't they love you " just the way you are"? If that means cutting off your waist length hair or wearing jeans more than dresses, its totally normal. I can honestly testify that every time I've experimented with my hair ( and that is a lot of times!) I have never consulted anyone but myself. In the end, you are the one wearing the hair/clothes/weight not the other person. Take control of your own life, your partner should be there to encourage and enrich your life not tell you who to be.

xox-S

The Case of the disappearing man...

The story you are about to hear is something that perhaps you yourself have experienced. If not, you may know of someone who has. Either way be prepared to enter. . . (cue music) The Twighlight Zone

The first time I experienced a phenomenon like this was back in late 2002. While working at an outlet mall clothing store, I was approached by a handsome customer and we exchanged numbers. At the time I was a teen and over the course of the following 5 months I fell head over heels for the guy who was 19, lived on his own and had a car, I really thought I was a lucky girl.

then it happened

Merely a week before my Senior Prom, tickets and dress bought, I received a mid afternoon call from my boyfriend whom we'll call " Ross", he was just getting out of work and promised to return my call later that night. Two hours, three hours, Four hours went by and still no call back from my boy. My impatience grew and the following day I called his cellphone and alas, disconnected!

Fast forward to the present year, I am speaking with a girlfriend and she begins to tell me about an amazing boy she met at the pool in her gym. For several weeks they shared a passionate connection and then all the sudden he moves Downtown and POOF! disappeared.

Has this happened to you or someone you know?

Bar games 101

This one's a keeper, on my nifty iGoogle application today I came to a link entitled 5 ways to get a girl to buy you a drink.

I must admit, the concept is genius and although I have not heard or witnessed it myself, I can't help but think how many of us ladies have actually bought a guy a drink at the bar? Here's a quick recap incase you can't click the link yourselves and ways for us as the ladies to avoid the sneaky methods.

Tell a story where a different woman bought you a drink. Of course, you can’t say, "So I was in this bar and this woman bought me a drink" and then smirk like an idiot

Ladies this is your chance to answer with a quick witted remark, " That's funny you say that, when I go to bars, guys buy me drinks too"

Follow up with a challenge, laced with presuppositions: "I doubt if when you buy me a drink it'll be that exciting but I'm sure that with a little creativity we can think of something..." If you look closely, this is a sentence made up of presuppositions. A presupposition is a statement where you assume that the person is going to do something.

Oh girls, nothing more fun than bruising a boy's ego with a little competition.. remind him you are smarter than his games, " how about you buy me a drink and i'll buy you one.. think of it as a supply and demand"

Assume her generosity. If a girl happens to say something like, “Do you want to go get a drink?” or “Let’s go get drinks” say: “Yeah! That sounds great, I’ll take a jack and coke” or whatever drink you want. If you say this with conviction as if you really mistook her meaning, it'll probably work, because most people won't say "No, I meant YOU buy" or "Give me the cash for it." If it doesn't work, fall back on "You get the first round and I’ll get the second." You'll end up paying for the next round but hey, you still got her to treat, rather than you buying everything.

Okay ladies, it's getting down to the nitty gritty here, A) this guy is lame and B) release him back to the ocean gently

Play the 5 questions game. This is a common game played by pick up artists, but there is no reason you cannot use it to just have fun.

do the fake giggle and then say, " listen, it was great meeting you but I have to go to the restroom, thanks again for the convo"
Truth is, a guy who plays pick up games is not one you want to date, or marry even. Sure, his sense of humor is there but you can laugh at funny stories or his quips without the blatantly cheesy pickup attempts.

so, next time you're out and a guy tries these tricks you'll be armed ;)

xox- S

Multitaskamist blog

Hey readers, I have begun a second blog site entitled, The Multitaskamist. It will be perfect to share with your guys and girls alike and I am kicking off the blog with a HUGE challenge.. go now to check it out and stay tuned to both here and the new blog.

Thanks for being faithful
xox-S

Julie& Julia: A blogger's version of 300

Okay, so I have to admit I may be exaggerating just a little but, truth be told, film Julie&Julia
truly inspired me to continue my journey and dreams to one day be nationally published. Julie Powell, the writer whose blog inpired the film was just your average 9-5er workin for the weekends with dreams of writing a book. With a "deranged assignment" as Powell puts it, she vows to blog and cook 365 days and all 542 recipes of Julia Child's cookbook, Mastering the Art of French Cooking.

I loved the movie's realistic view of blogging and the power of commitment. There are days (sometimes weeks!) that I do not want to blog. Mondays through Fridays in my cubicle, I dream about making a difference the lives of readers worldwide with my droll humor. Imagining my future like a Middle Schooler imagines their life as a married mom with a huge Barbie mansion. Julie Powell taught me the importance of dedication to her readers, commitment even when you don't feel like writing and that being a writer requires patience and a little insanity.

So, stay tuned for the blog series I have been brewing for about a week. This is my next step in following Julie Powell and millions of other amazing bloggers across the internet.

Thanks for actually reading and I am so excited and empowered more than ever
xox
-s

They say girls love the bad boys and for the most part of my dating career it has rang true. In Elementary school I liked the boys who were mean to me, as long as they had a nice smile, and even up until my last long term relationship my craving for a "bad boy" continued. As I age, however ( gracefully might I add) My cravings have started shifting from bad boys to witty intelects with emphasis on the witty. Blame The Office' Jim Harper, Arrested Development, Paul Rudd movies, and Jason Mraz for turning me onto the funny, not totally gorgeous guys. I mean if the smile is there so am I.

What "type" of guy do you crave? The mysterious, devishly handsome bad boy that gives your heart a wild ride or the stable bookwormish funny nerd that quotes Dwight from the Office?