Dating Myself: Day 3 Soundtrack

Since I spent day 3 with some of my closest friends, it put me in a grateful mood and decided to dedicate today's soundtrack to those long time friends who have made life that much better. Thanks guys :)

Dating Myself: Day 4

Happy In-Dependence day?!

Today, I spent it in the company of my family and it was glorious. Home cooked meal, two movie rentals and light rain outside made it merely impossible to complain about my 4th of July this year. The Films, which kept us entertained as the raindrops tapped the windowpanes were both very interesting- to say the least. We wound up renting She's out of my league and Youth in Revolt and had a lot of laughs. Now clearly, I have been dog paddling through the shallow waters of my mind into the deeper corners of theory so it was no surprise that amidst the dry Michael Cera humor and one-liners I began to see the movies in a much deeper light. It was non-coincidental that both of the films chosen to watch during the celebration of our Nation's independence ( which is arguable) relayed a message of

In-Dependence

She's out of my league focused primarily on the insecurities most people face when trying to measure up to their crush/mate. Where Youth in revolt focused on the power of dependency that can cause one to do stupid, illegal or dangerous acts- all for the sake of love.

What is it that causes us to depend on others, even if in the slightest? We measure ourselves up to the ridiculous Western standards of beauty, assume that we cannot go anywhere unaccompanied and force ourselves to adapt to a particular subculture . I speak for myself when I say that There is no such thing as complete INDEPENDENCE. Whether you like it or not, We all have some form of dependence. Even the radical-rage-against-the-machine-non-conformist types are still depending on non-conformity to base their behaviors on.

So, the question still stands: What causes us to depend on others for our own happiness?

Dating Myself: Day 3

Saturday was spent in the company of close friends. In the morning, I had coffee and a morning chat on the porch of my friend Jonathan's quaint Downtown Orlando home. Later, I went to my best friend, Leslie's new town home and finished off our Saturday together.

We headed to a local spot called House of Beers to watch Leslie's guitar teacher play some live music and were joined by another close friend, Anthony. The venue, which boasts its 48 flavors of micro brews, was a completely new experience to me. We decided to order a flight of 6 different types of beer and that's when it dawned on me: Amidst the laughter, great music and beer tasting, there was an interesting concept on sampling the different lagers and ales.

Sampling is a method that is overlooked when it comes to dating. We often conjure up a type of person we are most attracted to and never venture far from the self imposed "type". Even when it is clear that the type of person you are normally attract to is not really a good match for you. Tasting new "types" is a daunting task and often causes unnecessary anxiety but, who knows if that's the key to finding your true match?

Some of the beers such as the Kona were dark and similar to Guiness but upon tasting you were shocked into the cold coffee taste of the lager. While others such as the Delirium Tenrums ( spell check necessary) were a light blonde ale that of a typical Budlight but, tricked your taste buds into thinking you were eating Gerber's Banana baby food with the subtle hint of bananas.

Just as the beers appeared to look a one way but tasted completely different, people may appear to be a certain way or have certain interests but only tasting will truly allow you to experience the full flavor of the person.

I ended my Saturday with only one thought on my mind: Have I been confining myself to a certain 'type' of guy?

Dating Myself Day 2: Soundtrack

I thought it was only fitting to soundtrack Day 2 with a little bit of Queen's Break Free.. :) releasing from the grip of Public opinion is a feat in itself

Dating Myself: Day 2

In an effort to commemorate my new journey I decided to begin by
cutting off the past... Literally!

BEFORE & AFTER

I had been contemplating the cut of mid back length locks for several

weeks but never had the guts to go through with it partially because

it took forever to grow and also because of public opinion.

Today, however, I decided to do what I wanted to and kick public

opinion to the curb and let me tell you, it was liberating!! Even

though my heart pounded loudly in my chest, I face my fear of

conformity and chopped it all off and now I feel lighter, healthier

(my hair, that is) and ready to take on my future without having to

ask the opinion of others

"May you have less Ex's than Oh!'s "

-S

Dating Myself Soundtrack: Day 1

Thought I'd soundtrack my journey too.. This is the perfect song for my mood today.

Dating Myself: Day 1

After weeks of contemplation and hesitation, I have decided to take the plunge into dating...myself. Although I am a big believer in dating and obviously am not about to join a convent anytime soon, I will be taking a sabbatical of sorts from the mating/dating world to re-discover myself without the distraction of trying to impress anyone else.

So, I begin as any blogger hoping to change the world with their words should: by watching Julie & Julia, the film starring Meryll Streep and Amy Adams that inspired many writers ( including myself) to put their thoughts in cyberspace with hopes that someone will read it and have a life-changing experience. After the film, I will get my second dose of motivation with my latest and greatest read of 2010, Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. I will attempt to channel these dedicated women who once searched for their personal change as I quest for mine amidst the failed relationship memories and pre-conceived notions.

As with any exclusive dating relationship, I will challenge myself to listen to myself, encourage and romance myself ( as cheesy as it may sound). I will dedicate two days a week to go on self-dates and examine who I am as a mate. Be forewarned, if you know me beyond this blog, I will get rather candid and it may get mushy at times so, don't say I didn't warn you.

So, until July 31st, 2010 consider me in a relationship... off the market... taken or better yet- in construction and stay tuned to read every step of my attempt to date myself.